Swinging Etiquette Rule #1
We were having a lovely time with a couple last night. Popped their swinger cherries actually, which is a bit of a novelty.
I just had to write though to let any interested parties know about something you should never, ever, EVER do when engaging in group sex...
While one of the ladies was giving head to the other guy, the guy said to his partner, "Actually she is better than you."
The Horror! Why would one say such a thing???
And then, as if that wasn't enough, he also said "but I don't blame you for it".
(Ah yes, that makes it all better, doesn't it?)
Advice to anyone considering, starting out, or engaging in the world of wife swapping, never make comparisons! Doesn't that seem obvious? You would think it was, but obviously it's not.
People get jealous. People are sensitive. Especially when sharing their most intimate moments with others. Don't ever think that your relationship is secure enough to tell your partner that their sexual skills don't compare. Not only is it potentially hurtful to your partner, it can make for an uncomfortable situation for everyone.
If you want to keep everyone happy and turned on, don't voice your comparisons. Keep your thoughts to yourself and enjoy your good fortune!
Good night xo
Labels: donts, manners, swinger horror stories, swinging etiquette
posted by tendernfine at 2:15 PM
14 Comments:
Glad to see you're back! I have a question for you that I'd like to send in an e-mail...is tendernfine@hotmail.com still your address?
I love your pictures!
A situation happend just like that at the last party I went to. The guys just ended up leaving and we never heard from them again. lol
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Welcome back. Where have you been? I have been visiting your blog since i first saw it in August 08 for practically every day and despaired that you had signed out. Hope everything is fine? Yours is one of the finest blogs. Dont let your fans down.
Welcome back. Long time no see. Everything fine I hope? You have a beautiful pen and created one of the classiest visual blogs. I had logged in in Sep 08. Don't stop or pause again. It would torment your followers. Happy swinging.
keep posting!
Can't believe anyone would say that sort of thing - I cringed just reading it!
Are these pictures of you? Not only are you a great writer, but the blog is well put together. The photography is spectacular and you make me wish I was brave enought to live such a decadent lifestyle from time to time...
Tender... I need you to share more of your experiences and knowledge...
I have a spectacular wife, a life that most people envy, no reason to want for anything, and a passionate and intense sex life. I am 40, my wife is 30 and we have been in an intense love affair for many years.
My wife is always the sexiest lady in the room. She was at 19 years of age, when I first met her and she still is at 30 - even more so now, in fact. Her pretty face, petite build, glowing olive skin and long blond hair (as well as the most spectacular flat smooth tummy I've ever seen) turns heads (both male and female).
It was actually love at first sight! I went into a cafe for a latte, took one look at her and bought the whole place, so I could have an excuse to spend time with her, LOL!
We have been together for 14 years now... trouble free, happy and still as hot for each other as day one. I love her, respect her, and trust her. She is a great wife, a great friend and a mind blowing lover.
Having said that, I wonder whether it is crazy to even think of swinging. The idea of this pandora's box is intimidating. That line you may not want to cross.
Part of me relishes the idea of all the excitement and decadence of discovering new bodies, tasting new pleasures, and exploring these fantasies with my wife. Part of me also fears that reality may spoil a great fantasy and harm my own great reality.
My wife would be okay in the right situation... if she felt safe. I'm sure of that. We've discussed it before and often include talk of it in our more kinky love-making.
But fantasy is not a problem. You can imagine the perfect guy and the perfect girl, from the texture of their hair to the shape of their toes... Reality is a whole other thing, right? My wife and I both doubt that we could find a couple sexy enough to meet both our standards. I never seriously thought it was possible... until I found your blog.
Here is the thing. Your photos have me wondering... If these photos are of you, you are lovely. I know my wife would find your body as sexy as I do. More importantly, this blog is a clear indication that you're as intelligent as you are sensual. That is essential to us...
So, if you can, please tell me if you find sexy, clean, and classy playmates that satisfy both you and Mr Fine, or is it tough to find the right people?
You see, I may be a bit of a snob. If I ever considered it at all, I would have no intention of swinging with trashy people. I do not equate trashy with sexy.
99% of swinger content I've seen seems nasty or involves older people - bored middle aged people.
Your incredibly sexy blog is the first indication that people like you exist.
Tell me more. Wet my lips...
I'm glad I found your site. Now I'll just have to go back over all of the older posts to see what other presents you've left...
Where have you gone? If you have a minute, please give us a "hello"... Should we keep checking in?
XO
I just saw that you wrote this post last summer. It's nice to see you're still out there. I'm not sure whether it's because you're in Canada or because we find your photos gorgeous, or because of your seemingly down-to-earth attitude, but I've always hoped for more to come from your blog.
I agree it is never a good idea to make comparisons when just starting out or in public, but some people do become comfy enough with themselves and swinging that in private comparisons can be made with no harm/no foul.
wow I love your blog. I have been trying to build a swinger/dogger website for ontario. I'm having a bit of a hard time but I'm trying to get the word out there. There is little to no swinger/dogger sites for ontario!
also, I booked marked your blog! Keep up the good work!
All guys should follow this etiquette rule. This is very important not for the guys but for all the swingers out there. I will share this post to all my friend swingers.
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